Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Forgive and Forget

So we have all heard the phrase "forgive and forget," sounds simple right? Well, in my personal experience, it is easy to forgive but not to forget. It is to be expected that a person will never forget what has happened, but some people can't even learn to forgive.

I have forgiven many people in my life for various reasons, but I have never forgotten how they have wronged me. My biggest flaw though, is not only do I not forget, sometimes I do not let go of the issue and the pain that came along with it. In relationships, this flaw can be dangerous, whether it be a friend or lover.

Today I had a huge fight with my boyfriend and I brought up an issue from our past that should have been "dead." We had been over it a million times and I forgave him for what happened and promised we wouldn't go through this again, but in a moment of anger I just couldn't leave it alone. When I saw the pain and anger in his face, I felt such a sense of guilt. We talked things out and everything is okay but I learned that in order to truly move forward in life, the past must stay in the past.

When you say you forgive someone, mean it. It doesn't mean you forget what happened, but you should just learn from it and move forward.

Just wanted to share my little bit of wisdom....Lata Lovies!

2 comments:

Athena Christine. said...

ahem. i tend to do that sometimes to mamas. so it's just not you. but we BOTH will work on it together. ;] ILY BOO.

Jmilz86 said...

Yes girl we will! LOL it is a habit hard to lose! ILY 2 mamaz